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Dating And The Mystery Of Commitment
By Lawrence J. Reaves

 After you have dated someone for several months, it is natural to wonder about your relationship's level of exclusivity. After all, most long-term relationships seem geared toward commitment at some level. However, left unspoken, many people have a tendency to think that their partners feel the same way they do. They are often surprised to discover that their partners feel differently.


Are you and your dating partner equally committed to each other and to your relationship? In this article, we'll explore how your past relationships may signal your own inherent aversion to commitment. Plus, we'll describe a few of the obstacles on the way toward enjoying an exclusive, loving relationship.

Is Your Past Telling?

When pressed, most people will claim that they would like to pursue a committed, loving relationship with someone who feels the same. However, our past relationships often betray our claims. That is, the people we have dated in the past may have exhibited behaviors that seem inconsistent with a committed relationship. When there is a trend of such behaviors, it may imply that we are not looking for commitment.

For example, assume that you have dated a string of people who have been consistently unfaithful. Rather than leaving them, you have remained in those relationships until they have imploded of their own accord. The willingness to stay may be mistaken for commitment, but can actually imply a self-sabotaging tendency.

Ghosts Of The Past

The older we get, the more emotional baggage we carry. Ideally, we are able to dispel most of it and get on with our lives. However, many people collect the baggage from the past and carry it with them into new relationships. Unresolved, this baggage can sabotage the new relationship. Unless we take the necessary time to resolve past transgressions, forging a healthy commitment with another person is unlikely. In effect, we need to achieve closure and leave the ghosts of the past in the past.

Fulfillment, Then Commitment

Nobody else can make you feel fulfilled about yourself. It comes from within. Seeking it from someone else puts undue (and unfair) strain and pressure on that other person. That said, once you feel okay with who you are as a person, it is much easier to develop a loving relationship that is built upon mutual commitment.

At this point, you should look for consistencies between you and your dating partner. Do you share the same ideals about morality? Are your long-term goals and desires compatible? Is your partner coping with any personal issues such as addictions, health concerns, or other problems? Uncovering the answers to these questions is the next step toward a committed relationship. And it requires communication.

Being Upfront With Your Partner

In dating relationships, many people have a tendency to avoid direct communication about issues. Exclusivity and commitment are good examples. Sometimes, one partner assumes the other feels the same about the level of commitment - or, lack thereof - in the relationship. Other times, one partner may fear the answer and simply avoid asking. In both cases, the ambiguity can create a major problem.

If you are in a relationship and want it to be exclusive, you need to be upfront with your partner. Maybe they feel the same as you; maybe they don't. But, uncertainty will only exacerbate the issue. Assuming that you are ready for a commitment, clearly communicating as much to your partner is the surest path toward enjoying a fruitful, loving relationship with each other.

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Shifting Jewelry Trend Away From Yellow Gold And Diamond Wedding Sets

By Rudy Van Lancker

 Many things are traditional and based upon customs when getting married. Fifty years ago, most women had similar rings, typically a diamond engagement ring mounted in yellow gold and a simple yellow gold wedding band. The diamond size depended on the wealth of the groom and sometimes the band had diamonds as well if money was no object. As time progressed, however, many factors entered the picture to change the traditional wedding ring set.


Today, economic restrictions influence whether a bride will receive both an engagement ring and a wedding band. Further, allergic reactions to yellow gold may cause a groom to purchase a white gold setting for his bride. And newfound jewelry metals such as platinum, titanium, tungsten and rhodium plate have shifted the emphasis away from yellow gold. One last important reason for choosing other metals over gold is the fact that more women work outside the home today. They are finding it necessary to wear metals that are more durable, less apt to bend, break and erode, as well as metals that are seemingly impervious to scratching.

In addition to the new metals, the stones in many cases are not diamonds. In some instances, it is customary for grooms to pass on family heirlooms, which may consist of sapphires or rubies. Pearl and diamond combinations are equally as beautiful as single diamonds, making a spectacular engagement ring. And new forms of diamonds such as the naturally colored diamonds in chocolate, pink, blue, red, olive, violet and even black have become more prevalent. Due to their rarity and uniqueness, couples are eager to purchase gemstones that may not exist for mining in twenty years.

Grooms are also becoming more involved and ultimately more creative when choosing engagement and wedding rings. In fact, they may decide to guide the jeweler with a custom design fusing the two rings together to make one. Depending on the woman's occupation, the couple may also do away the engagement ring opting rather for a dazzling band set with diamonds around the whole band. This way, the stones are mounted inside the metal keeping them free from catching on things, while making a brilliant display to admire.

For the same reasons of durability, men are wearing wedding bands made of titanium or tungsten. Typically tungsten is not recommended for women's jewelry as earrings are impossible to make and other jewelry items such as pendants, necklaces and bracelets are not often found in tungsten. And tungsten is virtually impossible to use when making a matched set for the bride. But its rough and tough qualities make it the perfect metal for men to wear.

Men have also found that they enjoy the pleasant look of stainless steel in their rings, bracelets and necklaces. The selection is usually much smaller than gold or titanium but the color is quite appealing to the male jewelry market.

In summary, it is not critical to follow customs when purchasing metals and stones but rather, it is important to choose wedding jewelry that fits the lifestyle and individual personalities of the bride and groom.

Rudy Van Lancker is a consultant informing people on various topics including trends in wedding and jewelry, which he writes about on Jewellery Talk and the Destination Wedding Blog.


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